Marriage is a sacred covenant that requires dedication, discipline, diligence intentional understanding, and love. In a world where relationships often face myriad challenges, the secret to unlocking full submission from your wife lies in how you treat her, you can always reap what you sow in her my fellow friends, fans, and families. To deal rightly with your wife is not about exerting dominance(she’s not your subordinate at work or junior colleague)but fostering a partnership, friendship, and fellowship built on mutual respect, love, and appreciation.

UNDERSTAND THE NEEDS OF YOUR WIFE
Every wife has unique needs and desires. Taking the time to understand her aspirations, fears, and expectations is the first step toward creating a harmonious relationship. Listen actively and empathetically. When she feels heard, she will be more willing to share her thoughts and feelings openly. This foundation of communication builds trust, which is crucial for any lasting relationship. Let communication flows freely in your home and you’ll enjoy the hidden treasures in your wife. The more you communicate freely, the better your understand her, enjoy her, and bring the best out of her. I am a living testimony to this!

ALWAYS SHOW APPRECIATION TO HER
Appreciation is a powerful tool in any marriage. Acknowledge her efforts, whether it’s managing the household, excelling in her career, or caring for the children. Simple gestures like saying “thank you” or giving her a thoughtful gift can go a long way. When she feels valued, her willingness to submit and support you increases naturally. I remember when I did a surprise 45 birth date anniversary for my wife three years ago, it was great motivation for her to be committed more to the family. She couldn’t but shed tears of joy when our friends came very early in the morning singing and praising God on her behalf. Celebrate your wife. Stop unnecessary comparison. Stop admiring another person’s wife, invest in your own wife physically, spiritually, and emotionally!

LOVER HER UNCONDITIONALLY
Unconditional love means loving her without expecting anything in return. It involves being there for her during good times and bad, offering support, and showing compassion. Love her for who she is, not who you want her to be. This type of love fosters a deep emotional connection that encourages her to reciprocate with love and submission. Though it may be tough but it’s our responsibilities to love our wives without anything in return. Remember the metaphor used by Paul on relationship between husband and wife. Either she submits or not, it’s your responsibility to love her unconditionally! God will not judge you by her actions or reactions, God will judge you by your own actions and reactions! Know this and know peace.

LEADING WITH INTEGRITY
Leadership in marriage is not about control but about guiding the family with wisdom and integrity through the leadership you daily receives from the Creator of marriage. Make decisions that are in the best interest of both of you and the family as a whole. Be honest and transparent in your actions. When your wife sees that you are reliable and trustworthy, she will be more inclined to follow your lead. As once said by my friend and brother, Prof Enyinnaya, he said,’it takes a good follower to be a good leader.” To lead with integrity, you must follow God’s instructions. Many at times, your wife may offend you but God asks you to go and apologize to her, what would you do? Hmmm, following God’s guide brings peace to your home.

BE HER PARTNER AT ALL TIME
Marriage is a partnership where both parties should feel equal. Share responsibilities and support each other’s goals and dreams. Help with household chores, take care of the children, and be involved in her interests. Being her partner in all aspects of life shows that you are in this together, strengthening the bond between you.

FOSTER EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL INTIMACY
Emotional and physical intimacy are essential for a thriving marriage. Spend quality time together, have meaningful conversations, and be affectionate. Physical touch, such as holding hands, hugging, and kissing, strengthens the emotional connection. Prioritize your relationship by setting aside time for each other, free from distractions. We enjoy ludo games where most of the time the children are referees! Don’t tell my ooo, I usually defeat her. Lol. Enjoy your home, it’s only one life. Satan has no home unless you give him room in your bedroom, living room, bathroom or kitchen! Give that serpent no room in your home.

PRAYING TOGETHER AT ALL TIME
For many, faith plays a vital role in marriage. Praying together can strengthen your spiritual bond and provide a sense of unity and purpose. It invites divine guidance and fosters a deeper connection. When you both share your spiritual journey, it creates a foundation of shared values and beliefs. Do pray walk together occasionally. Do you have WhatsApp group of you and your wife alone? Oh, you are missing! Create one, pray together there, send prayer requests there, place your burden there especially when you are in office or somewhere. Prayer attends to all things.

ENCOURAGE HER GROWTH
Support your wife in her personal and professional growth. Encourage her to pursue her passions and develop her talents. When she feels supported in her endeavours, she is more likely to feel fulfilled and content, which positively impacts the relationship. A confident and happy wife is more willing to submit and contribute to the marriage.

RESOLVE CONFLICTS RESPECTFULLY
Show me a home without conflict, I’ll show you a couple replete with hypocrisy! Conflicts are inevitable in any relationship, but how you handle them matters. Address disagreements with respect and a willingness to understand each other’s perspectives. Avoid harsh words and focus on finding solutions together. A respectful approach to conflict resolution reinforces trust and respect, making it easier for your wife to submit willingly. And since you are the leader as husband, lead in conflicts resolution. Trust God who is your own leader to supply you with wisdom.

BE PATIENT AND PERSISTENT
Change and growth take time. Be patient with yourself and your wife as you steer the journey of marriage. Persistence in applying these principles will yield positive results over time. Remember, submission is not something to be demanded but earned through consistent actions and genuine love. When I see a husband who enforces submission through Ephesians 5, it’s a show of weakness on his part. Follow God’s principles and submission will come naturally. You don’t demand it, you receive and earn it through your love to your own wife.

To sum up, the secret to unlocking full submission from your wife lies in how you deal with her daily. By understanding her needs, showing appreciation, loving unconditionally, leading with integrity, being her partner, fostering intimacy, praying together, encouraging her growth, resolving conflicts respectfully, and being patient, you create an environment where she feels safe, valued, and loved. In such a relationship, submission becomes a natural and willing response, leading to a fulfilling and harmonious marriage.